We have been looking forward to this day since we set up the appt a month ago! Today a social worker came to our home for the home study visit. We really didn't know what to expect. We sat at the kitchen table where we were asked a lot of questions about ourselves, our marriage, families, safety of our home and neighborhood etc. One of the first questions he asked was what we loved about each other, which was really sweet. There were some tears. He asked to take a tour of our home to see where the babies room would be and evaluate for safety issues. He asked a lot about CF. Then we had to have personal interviews with him to talk about our childhood, upbringing, marriage and spouse. The whole visit took 2 hours. It went well and he told us that he had no concerns. The last step is to fill out more paperwork and he needs to turn his report into the committee. Best case scenario we could be set to go in 3 weeks.
The whole experience was positive but it is so strange to have to be interviewed and approved to have a baby. I mean, it will be our biological child but yet we have to go through a lot of scrutiny (not in a bad way its just weird) I better understand what adoptive parents must feel like, your only hope for a child is in someone else's hands. It is just unnatural to have to prove to a social worker and a committee of people that you are a loving couple who deserves the chance to have children. Don't get me wrong, we are so grateful for the opportunity to have ivf.
Anyway thanks for all of your support! We are so anxious, eager and excited to get going on the ivf meds! Hopefully in April. We will keep you posted.
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That's really great. It is unfortunate that there are so many people out there who want children and would make great parents but can't for whatever reason. Then there are a lot of people who should get there baby making parts taken away from them because there are such horrible parents.
After our home study visit, my husband and I joked that all couples should have to go through a similar process in order to have kids! It would sure take care of a lot of society's problems! You need to pass a test to drive a car, right? And this is bringing a whole new person into the world and taking care of them! LOL Glad it went well, can't wait to hear about the next step!
Wow - what an experience. I'm glad it went well for the most part, but I can see what you mean about it being hard to have to "justify" why you want a child and why you would be good parents. How can something so natural turn into what feels like a job interview? My fingers are crossed for you!!
I'm so glad it went well, not like it wouldn't have! We are keeping our fingers crossed and praying for you that everything happens quickly. You guys are gonna be the best parents!
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